Saying no can be the most freeing sensation in the world. No more hedging, no more “I’ll ask my mum/dad/other responsible adult”. No. I am an adult now and I can say no if and when I want to. Which is more often than not. It’s not anyone’s fault; I do enjoy hanging out with my friends, I just also really enjoy my own company and sitting and being alone.
So maybe I’m an introvert. That’s a slight possibility.
No is good in other circumstances too. “Hey, baby, want a drink?” “No.” “Can I share with you the word of Jesus Christ our Saviour?” “No, thank you.” (I’m not rude, I did get taught some manners).
No. No. No.
I have better things to be doing than agreeing to everything that comes my way. Do I want to go to this nightclub? No. I’d rather be asleep. Do I want to go to the gym? God, no. My 40 minute walk to work and back will do just fine. Do I want to go see this film? Actually, yeah, I’ll always go see a film (within limits). Do I want to sign up for a free trial? No, leave me alone.
No is so good. So nice and refreshing. Don’t be afraid to say no.
Some people seem to think that you should say yes to every opportunity, because you never know what might happen. But, really, you usually do know. I know that if I take up that invite to go out drinking when I’m certain I’m not in the mood I know that I’ll spend a couple of hours nursing a few drinks, not get half as drunk as everyone else and then go home sometime around midnight (sometimes even 10pm) because I feel shitty. I’ll go to sleep and feel like crap in the morning. Not really worth it, is it?
I know my own mind, and people who try to convince you otherwise with a little “But it’ll be fun, you never know what might happen, you’ll have a great time,” are not privy to the inside of your head. If you don’t want to do something, if you’re simply not in the mood or if you’re just not bloody interested, say no.
Go on. It feels great.
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